貴

前年剛結婚的好朋友,因為房子貸款太貴, 所以決定把他們的公寓賣掉. 權宜之計,是各自回自己的家裡住. 就這樣, 兩個人就分開了.

以前也有同事, 因為工作和薪水的誘引, 夫妻兩地住.

聽了有點訝異. 不太了解,又能了解.

電鍋豆花

不大了解什麼是電鍋豆花... 不過看起來很好吃.
記下來~

http://www.wretch.cc/blog/Megs/24225688

抱怨

很多抱怨要聽，
又不能因為如此影響態度，
。。。會累

該說的與不該說的

最近有兩次情形，都是碰到有想要說的話，想對對方說，可惜不能說出口。
想說，是想為對方好。
不能說，礙於情況與身分。
哎~

Love is a verb

so i'm reading this book that has claimed sold over 15 million copis...

still not totally convinced yet...

but there is this part which i think deserve attention:

...a man came up and said, "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just dont have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just dont love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"

"The feeling isnt there anymore?" I asked.

"That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"

"Love her", I replied.

"I told you, the feeling just isnt there anymore."

"Love her."

"You dont understand. The feeling of love just isn't there."

"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."

"But how do you love when you don't love?"

"My friend, love is a verb. Love-the feeling-is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"

~The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People~

and then the book goes on telling people to be proactive. Love is a verb, and reactive people make it a feeling.

文筆

向來欽佩我3舅的文筆。。。就連msn的對話，也讓我贊嘆。。。

王ㄚ華 says:
說的也是，夜已深吾將睡(台灣半夜1點)，代我問候令娘，也轉告她母親近況甚佳，不必掛念。

婚禮的現實面

interesting post by lamb: 婚禮的現實面