Love is a verb

so i'm reading this book that has claimed sold over 15 million copis...

still not totally convinced yet...

but there is this part which i think deserve attention:

...a man came up and said, "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just dont have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just dont love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"

"The feeling isnt there anymore?" I asked.

"That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"

"Love her", I replied.

"I told you, the feeling just isnt there anymore."

"Love her."

"You dont understand. The feeling of love just isn't there."

"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."

"But how do you love when you don't love?"

"My friend, love is a verb. Love-the feeling-is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"

~The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People~

and then the book goes on telling people to be proactive. Love is a verb, and reactive people make it a feeling.